5 Divine Days – Day 1 – The Day You Stop Blaming Others
Day 1 – The Day You Stop Blaming Others
The older I become, the more I am convinced that there are milestones to maturity that we must pass in order to become balanced and fulfilled adults. These milestones are the defining moments, or divine days, in our lives where we come to realize a greater purpose behind the chaos of our own existence.
Throughout the next 5 posts, I’m going to address 5 Divine Days. 5 Points along the path of our existence that will either become the stumbling blocks of failure and unhappiness or stepping-stones to the lives of destiny and fulfillment we long for.
So let’s get started with day 1, the day you stop blaming others.
Day 1 – The Day You Stop Blaming Others.
I am starting with this divine day because I think it’s one of the greatest handicaps of our modern society. We like being the victims. We like having the option of blaming someone for the problems we’re facing.
For several years in my early 20’s I ran a locksmith company. When it failed, I blamed a lot of other people for its failure. I blamed the people I hired who didn’t live up to my expectations. I blamed my wife for not being more supportive. I blamed the person who advised me to open a storefront. . I blamed the people who encouraged me to become a business owner in the first place. In fact, I blamed pretty much everyone except myself
Blaming others robs us of the power that we truly possess. When we blame others for the circumstances in our lives, we place the control and responsibility for our lives in their hands. As long as we blame others for where we are in life, we are powerless to transition to the place we are destined to be.
Are there people who have caused me pain in life? Yes. Are there people who have given me bad advice? Yes. Are there people who have let me down, disappointed me, and stolen from me? Yes.
Are they responsible for who I am today? NO!
When the locksmith business failed, I was the one who hired people I liked instead of people who were right for the job. I was the one who chose to place the burden of my own business choices on my wife. I was the one who didn’t do the market research before opening the storefront, and I was the one who chose to listen to the advice I wanted to hear above the advice I didn’t want to hear. At the end of the day, I made every significant choice, and I was the only one who was responsible.
Masters of Blame
As a society, we are masters of blame. We blame our ex. We blame the education system. We blame lack of education. We blame the government for being too involved, and we blame the government for not being involved enough. We blame our families, our employers, the church, the neighborhood, the ‘man’, and even God.
Blame is the cheap curtain that we pull over the window to our soul so that we don’t have to see our own brokenness. We must pull back the curtain before we can ever begin to the process of mending our lives.
As you pull back the curtain today and look beyond the surface in your own life, what do you see? Are you broken? Are there areas of your life that have fallen into disrepair because you’ve put the blame and responsibility on someone else.
Life, circumstances, and people will wound you. It’s inevitable. It has happened in the past, and if you live long enough it will happen again in the future. It’s life.
Accepting responsibility to repair that brokenness doesn’t always mean that you accept the blame for causing every problem, it just means that you understand that you’re the one who is tasked with fixing them.
At any given moment, you have the power to say, “This is not how the story is going to end. – Unknown
My challenge for you today is to stop blaming anyone else for the condition of your life. No matter how wrong, cruel, or devastating their actions may have been. Accept responsibility and begin to tell a different story.
The day you stop blaming others is the day you begin to discover who you truly are.