Everything Is Relative

On a road between destiny and failure two men stand side by side. All that matters? The direction they’re traveling.

Everything is Relative - On a road between destiny and failure two men stand side by side

~ Everything Is Relative ~

The Road.

I think that in some form or another, each of us have within our minds a long road. We believe that at one end of that road lies success and the fulfillment of our destinies. The other end of that road leads to failure and loss.

Admittedly, your definition of success and failure are likely somewhat different from the next persons, but no matter what you place at the ends of that road, something is there.

In today’s post I want to encourage those of you who are discouraged and challenge those of you who have grown complacent, because when it comes to the road between destiny and failure, everything is relative.

It’s Not Where You Are.

The Discouraged

Several years ago, I had a sports injuries that left me with excruciatingly painful shin-splints any time I would try to run. I’m not talking marathon running either, even running across the street was painful.

This year I’ve committed to the process of healing and rehabilitation.  Ultimately, I’d like to be able to run like I used to. My personal goal is to beat my high school best.

I’ve made significant progress, but anytime I start comparing myself to what I used to be capable of or what others are capable of, I get really discouraged.

You may not be a runner, but life works the same way. We look at where we are, and then we compare it to an arbitrary standard. We grow discouraged because we aren’t as far along as our friends. Some of us grow discouraged because we’ve set our own unrealistic expectations of where we should be by now, and it’s impossible to measure up.

Maybe you’ve experienced set-backs like my injury in other arenas of life. Maybe you have experienced a business failure (been there). Maybe you’ve experienced relationship failures. (been there) Maybe you’ve made just about every mistake that can be made. (think maybe I’ve been there too)

Setbacks are a part of life for EVERYONE. That’s why it’s so important to not dwell on where you are today, but rather which direction you’re heading and how serious you’re taking your journey. Everything is relative.

The Complacent

I often say, “The best usually aren’t. The most talented often miss the extraordinary they are called to because they live by the standards of the less gifted.”

To many individuals who are called and equipped to radically impact their world for good have stopped along the road to their destiny because they looked back and saw how far they were ahead.

We are all gifted in areas, and it is extremely easy to simply skate by with minimal effort in those areas and still stay ahead of the crowd.

Just like those further behind along the road can become inappropriately discouraged by looking at those who are ahead, it is also easy for us to develop an inappropriate sense of accomplishment by looking at how far we are ahead.

If your destiny is to be an Olympic Gold Medalist, don’t become complacent and satisfied with a state trophy.

Everything Is Relative

Stop dwelling on where you are, and start asking yourself what direction are you heading. Forget the setbacks and put the past victories on the shelf. Are you closer to your goal right now than you were one year ago, one month ago, or even one day ago?

All that matters is the direction your life is going.

“Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14



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Jeremy BinnsWhen I'm not trying to save the world from the coming zombie invasion, I love my wife, hug my daughters, write, photograph, listen, observe, explore, and worship.View all posts by Jeremy Binns →

  • Laurel Griffith

    Jeremy: This is a great message I need to hear most every day. Thanks for crafting such a beautiful post.

    • http://www.jeremybinns.com/ Jeremy Binns

      Thanks Laurel – I know that it’s probably a pretty basic concept, but I’m with you on needing to hear it daily. Thanks!

  • http://www.facebook.com/audra.adamssparkman Audra Adams Sparkman

    Thank you!

    • http://www.jeremybinns.com/ Jeremy Binns

      You’re welcome! :)

  • http://www.timthompsonshares.com/ Tim Thompson

    It is true life is a full marathon and not a 50 yard dash. I struggle with this too, I’ve just
    started by 4-5 months of serious effort yet I’m watching and emulating those
    who have been an overnight success (5-10 yrs) in the making and wonder why it’s
    taking so long. And yet in some areas of life I look and feel as though I can
    put it on cruise control because I’m out in front of the pack when I really should
    be upping the pace and extending the lead. Great food for thought, hope you’re
    having a great week. Tim

    • http://www.jeremybinns.com/ Jeremy Binns

      Great point Tim – I know that’s a really common thread with people who are entrepreneurs also. They compare themselves with businesses that have been going strong for a decade and started with a quarter of a million in the bank.

      Here’s to living all out friend!

"He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose." - Jim Elliot

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