How To Conquer Hopelessness – Three Things You Can Do
A series on hope wouldn’t be very practical if we didn’t talk about a how to conquer hopelessness. In this post, I’m going to try to give you three very practical things that you can do fight back hopelessness and possibly catch a glimpse of a brighter tomorrow.
I realize as I am writing this that I am not sitting in the room with you. In fact, we very likely have never even met.
I don’t know what you’ve been through, and I won’t pretend that a few paragraphs written by a guy in Nashville, TN are going to magically make all of your problems disappear.
What I can say though is that I do know what it’s like to completely engulfed in a hopelessness so complete and thick that it suffocates the very will to live out of you. I know what it’s like to be driving along the interstate and seriously contemplate letting go of the steering wheel and just closing my eyes.
I’m not proud to say that, but If you’re reading this, maybe that’s the same kind of darkness that is overshadowing your life right now. If so, I can’t promise you a quick fix, but I can tell you that from my own experience, you can conquer hopelessness.
How to Conquer Hopelessness – Three Practical Techniques
1.) Change Your Routine
This may seem too simplistic at first glance, but don’t write it off just yet. Much of our life experience is determined and dictated by our daily routine, and it is often hard to imagine life being different from what it is right now and in this moment.
Part of that equation is that we go through the same experiences each and every day. We surround ourselves with the same people. We go to the same job. We eat the same food. We watch the same t.v. shows.
What would happen tomorrow if you made a radical change in your routine? What would happen tomorrow if you connected with some people who you had never met before?
Go on a vacation. Take an art class. Buy an electric guitar. Get on Pinterest and find a new hobby. Go to an animal shelter and volunteer. Get a tattoo. (you should maybe wait 24 hours before jumping into that one – but hey, everyone has at least one tattoo they regret anymore)
New experiences open our minds to new ideas. New ideas open our imagination to new possibilities, and new possibilities are the seeds of hope.
New experiences open our minds to new ideas. New ideas open our imagination to new possibilities. New possibilities are the seeds of hope.
— Jeremy Binns (@Jeremy_Binns) October 17, 2012
2.) Constructively Share Your Pain
Sometimes, the world sometimes seems filled with greed and apathy, but there are still a lot of people who genuinely care about others. These beautiful souls find their own purpose and hope in caring for others.
Hopelessness grows like an infection within us when we keep our feelings and pain locked inside. Let go of the facade, let go of the pride, and talk to someone who cares.
Find someone who isn’t judgmental and who isn’t going to run and tell everyone else your business, and then go for coffee or lunch and just be open and honest.
If you don’t have a friend like that, you might consider connecting with someone online or at a local church. If you want, leave me a message. I’ll listen and pray for you.
— Jeremy Binns (@Jeremy_Binns) October 17, 2012
3.) Give God a 2nd Chance
Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” For a lot of people battling hopelessness, especially believers there is a deep-rooted belief that God has let them down.
A lot of times, our head knowledge gets in the way of this truth of our hearts. When disappointment comes time and again, we slowly lose hope that God cares enough to be involved in our lives.
For some, we even get to the point of believing that God is determined to do us harm. Talk about hopeless!
There are certainly a library of pithy quotes regarding God that I could dump onto the page right now, but instead I want to share a verse that inspires my imagination and gives me renewed hope in hope itself.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope. – Romans 15:13
He is the ‘God of hope’. I am grateful for all of the other things that God is too, but I find those three words to open a door to the wondrous inside of my mind and heart.
Unlocking the front door and allowing God to come inside for that cup of coffee is undoubtedly the single greatest step anyone can take in the battle to conquer hopelessness. When we open the door and make a sincere reach towards God, we find that we are quite literally opening the door to hope itself.
I know that there are probably many things we could talk about in the quest for conquering hopelessness, but by acting on any of these, you are taking action, and that in itself is powerful. I may write one more post for the hope series talking about Healthy Hope vs. Unhealthy Expectations.
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