Perception Series: How to improve your self perception.
How to improve your self perception.
As someone who has worked as a career photographer for the last decade, it has literally been my job to understand and improve the self perception, or the self image, of my clients.
Most people I’ve encountered struggle with their self perception.What I’ve found is that it doesn’t matter how expensive the suit is. It doesn’t matter how neat the hair is or how perfect the body is. Most people I’ve encountered struggle with their self perception.
This poor self image isn’t just about physical appearance for everyone. Some people deal with a poor self perception when it comes to their intelligence. Some people feel like they are incapable of having a successful relationship. Some people feel like they will always have financial problems. While others have a self perception that says they will never fit in… anywhere.
Everyone has their own fill in the blank when it comes to problems with self perceptions. They sound something like, “I can’t have, be, or do this because I am _______________.”
The way that we perceive ourselves is the way that we present ourselves.I really can’t overstate the importance of self perception. The way that we perceive ourselves is the way that we present ourselves.
Back to photography… Two people come in for a session. The first lady, we’ll call her Mary, has what our culture would say was magazine cover good looks. The second lady, we’ll call her Susan, is an average looking girl. She’s not a knockout, but she’s not scary or anything either.
I used to get excited when Mary’s would come to me for photo sessions. I’d make the assumption that I was going to get some great new pictures for my portfolio. Many times though, I was reminded, that all the good looks in the world can’t compensate for a poor self image and lack of self confidence. Whenever those were prevalent, the pictures would be average.
Susan however, would come to the session full of confidence and ready to show the world her beauty. Time and time again, this ‘average’ looking lady would walk away with stunning images. Why? Because the way that you perceive yourself is the way that you present yourself. People will almost always receive the image of yourself that you perceive. When you see your greatness, they will too.
People will almost always receive the image of yourself that you perceive.When you see your greatness, they will too.
— Jeremy Binns (@Jeremy_Binns) June 25, 2012
The same holds true in nearly every area of your life. The person lacking confidence, presents that perception to his employer and is turned down for the promotion. The guy who believes his girlfriend doesn’t really love him, pushes her away and reinforces his poor self perception. The woman trying to close a business deal perceives herself as less talented than her competition and presents her product without confidence.
Every area of your life is significantly affected by your self perception!
Here’s three simple ways to improve your self perception.
- Surround yourself with people who believe in you.
I highly recommend finding a vibrant church. Sometimes family and friends can be this voice too.
- Find something that you can win at and do it often.
Golf, video games, music, art, tap dancing… whatever it is, do it often. Winning at anything communicates to our self perception on a subconscious level.
- Understand that the world has only been given one ‘you’.
You possess something in your makeup that this world needs. You’re the only one capable of giving the gift of ‘you’ to your family, to your company, to your relationships, to your church, or to your community.
Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.” That has perhaps never been more true than when we are speaking of ourselves.
I believe there is hope for each of us.
I believe we can overcome failure.
I believe that we CAN change.
And I believe that each of us is called to soar!
Have you found something that helps you with your self perception? Share it with the rest of us by leaving a comment.